Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Senior Night






What a special birthday!

Tuesday, Feb. 20th, was my birthday. Jonathan, playing his last home game as a Senior before the playoffs had prepared a special dedication to his step-mother, Heather. Jonathan and Heather have become wonderfully close over the past year, as Heather's love has gone a long way in healing my son's wonderful, but very wounded heart. Jonathan is smart, (honor roll), funny, and, in the opinion of many of us, his team's Most Valuable Player. He plays with grit, determination, can skate, score, and led the team in penalty minutes, putting a scare in the opposition on every shift. Even the coach honored him by having the announcer read that Jonathan is a leader in the lockerroom as well as on the ice. It was moving.

During the dedication, he skated over and embraced his step-mom, and gave her the rose, publically thanking her for her support. She was very nervous getting up in front of a crowd, and did her best to hold back tears. She loves Jonathan dearly and thinks that he is one of the brightest spots in her life. At 17, Jonathan felt unwanted. What a difference a year makes! He knows his value to us, and how deeply he is loved and respected. Although neither Heather nor I want him to go away to college, we are respecting his decision as a young adult. He has earned that with his mature behavior this past year. We will miss him terribly, but will look forward to holidays with him coming home to us. Last night, all of these emotions ran together for Heather------it was a magical night. She felt so undeserving of the honor that Jonathan bestowed upon her, but accepted it graciously. It is something she will never forget.

Afterwards, all the parents were together for a group picture, which we will purchase and treasure. I was never so proud of Heather and so proud to be standing next to her on the ice. One day, Jonathan will tell his children about this wonderful woman, and the wonderful year he spent living with us. He is moving out next August for college, but if Heather has her way, he will eventually return home and transfer to a local school. One day, Jonathan will bring his children to Heather to help him and his wife raise them in the Christian faith, not only knowing the faith, but sacrificially living the faith the way Heather does, day in, and day out.

I asked Jonathan to score a goal for my birthday. He obliged like the obedient son he is. We had a wonderful time at the game and afterwards got together for my favorite cake (ice box cake...it is second only to Bern's chocalate cake with vanilla icing that she MUST give Heather the recipe for!) and opened presents. I had receieved some incredibly artistic photos from Bern (one of which is already hanging) warm wishes from Heather's family, music books for my renewed love of guitar from Beth, a wonderful collage of pictures from Sarah and Jonathan of all the fun we had this winter, a cutting board from Joseph to stop me from carving up the counter (Heather...) and some sweat pants; apparently to stop me from wandering downstairs in my boxers! All in all, it was a magical night with the people I love best. Pete was in Portland, but was present in spirit, as he had a wonderful picture on the ice rink in his famous NY Rangers' jersey!

thanks to all! It was a special night for all of us. 45 years young.............

7 comments:

Bethy said...

What a great birthday all around!
Congrats to Jon for all the games well played.

Seamus O Riley said...

I'll have more pictures of Jonathan at the game to follow. A very kind man said to me that he had heard that Jonathan had chosen to honor his step mother and that Jonathan can look back upon this, many years from now, and know that he acted out of conscience, rather than guilt, and that if he lives his life not dictated by guilt, he will be much happier. This same man will send me more pictures that he took of Jonathan which I will post. I am grateful for his thoughts last night.

Anonymous said...

I'm glad you had a great birthday dad! I know how proud you must have been of jonny last night with the flowers...I wish I could have been there.
its too bad michael had to use his injury to bring a downer on the whole night
but all in all he didn't ruin it
I can't believe how far jon and i have come since we've moved in with you and nans. we're not trying to kill each other anymore! haha
I'm so glad he got a goal for him and you
well happy birthday again old man!
don't let michael suck the fun out of life for ya!!
love,
sarah

Seamus O Riley said...

thanks, Sarah! The old man will press on for another day.

I like what the guy at the rink said: Don't live controlled by guilt. Everyone says it but unless you have lived it for 20 years, it is hard to break free.

Besides, I am a Hyatt. I know how to sabatoge my own happiness! In fact, I am really good at it.

Seriously, we have a hard time believing that we deserve happiness and some wise siblings of mine just say "accept the happiness and enjoy it". Period.

I like that.

I just need some practice. For the first time in my adult life, I am not only loved, but I am liked. I am supported and encouraged. It is not easy for me to accept!

I am proud of both you and Jonathan. You are like best friends now, and that is how it should be. Although, I don't know this kid, "Jon". Did you hear the crowd when he scored? Where did all this popularity come from?

When I saw the "Rag On Jon" t-shirts and learned that posters were all over school, I wondered who this fellow was!

bethy said...

Guilt is a useless emotion. It's forces us to do things we really don't want to do. There's a phrase that echoes around "do the right thing" but it doesn't say who (or whom) that right thing is for...do the right thing for somebody else? or do what's right for me? I'm glad Jonathan did what was right for HIM, and honoring Heather as his step-mother AND his friend was right for him. That's to be commended. We can be guilted into a lot of things but standing up for what you believe in is something to be proud of. Way to go Jonathan.

Post more pictures!

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Pete! What a great night you had...and any night that ends with "cake" is perfect! Please post more photos when you can..Bernadette

Seamus O Riley said...

Bern,

I won't post another picture until you e-mail Heather with your choc cake/van icing recipe! That is my final word on the subject!

except: do you recall which cake? the icing was unreal....hard on the outside, but soft on the inside...Saturday afternoons you made them....